That is what I used to do prior to the pandemic. I started off being a sober companion to individuals struggling with substance abuse and/or mental health. I was unlike most sober companions because I moved in with the client and worked 24/7 with them. These were obviously unique cases because you have to be able to trust that while your asleep, your client’s safety is not in jeopardy.

Why I’ve gone from Sober Companion to Accountability Coach? The only reason I really switched the title was for the judgmental individuals in the recovery field who don’t like when someone was once sober and is no longer sober. That would be me. I was sober for 8 ½ years until one day I wasn’t. What does that mean? Well, after many years of therapy, working the steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, and working with other alcoholics, I decided that I was no longer that lost little girl like when I got sober. I could articulate my emotions now and knew how to take accountability for my actions. (not trying to say I’m perfect at it but just keep reading) The difference was, I was no longer seeking to numb or disconnect from my emotions. Which, when I was younger was what fueled my substance abuse.

I don’t recommend doing what I did simply because we are not the same. We each have our own unique journeys and for me to say that because I could do it you can, would not be fair. I don’t think I’ve found the cure to addiction. Nor do I think the jury’s out on my situation. My “normal” life could switch in a moments notice. I have lost more friends than I can count to the disease of addiction. I will never be the deciding factor for someone because you never know if that person will make it back to recovery.

When I work with an individual, I help them find balance with recovery and life. I teach them how to use the tools they’ve already learned whether in therapy or recovery meetings to help them through tough times… The number one thing I’ve always steer clear of though is my decision to no longer be sober. I’ve had clients ask me, “You’re normal, why aren’t you teaching me to be normal?” Put it this way, that’s not my job and my ego isn’t big enough that I think I’ve cured addiction. Hell No! I’ve seen how my coping mechanisms have changed over the years. Shopping to fill a void>dating like it was a job> eating disorder> shopping to fill a void>etc. You get the point.

I loved my job. I have met some of the coolest people, made some great friends, and have learned so much from everyone I’ve helped. I think the most unique thing about it is how I’d immerse myself into people’s lives. See the difference between me and what a typical sober companion company does is I DON’T WANT YOU TO NEED ME. It’s that simple. It starts as 24/7 and slowly tappers down to daily check-ins to weekly, to monthly. That is what makes me the happiest, when the individual can be on their own and work through those tough times just the same as if I was there with them.

So, please, if you have questions for yourself or for a loved one that may be struggling, message me or even email me.

I’m happy to help in any way I can.